Most adults have kids' best interests at heart, but it would be a lie to say all adults are trustworthy, safe, and want what's best for you.
I have been researching adults who bully and abuse for six years now and I've learned that despite our knowledge and good intentions, we continue to fail to stop the bullying and abuse of children.
Sexual harassment and abuse targets the child's sexuality. Adults who bully say it's actually motivation; adults who sexually harass say it's about affection. They show care, attention, give favours, gifts and opportunities.
They may even try to become connected to your parents. Adults who sexually groom, lure and ultimately abuse are patient and adept at fooling other adults.
Know this: no matter how much adults try to dismiss or deny bullying conduct by calling it other things like "tough love" or "motivation" or trying to make you prepared for a harsh world, it's not backed by research. It's simply an outdated opinion.
In fact, we still are in an outdated belief-system that adults who use bullying tactics get results. It's a deeply entrenched set of ideas so it can be a real battle to convince the adults in your world that you are suffering.
It's outdated because psychological and neuroscientific studies show that adults who humiliate, shame, put down, target, deny opportunities, refuse to give proper feedback, ignore, berate, blame and so on, cause harm to children's developing brains. They do not make them any tougher; they hurt them.
This course is a guide. It is meant to open up discussion and to encourage you to report to trusted adults in your world. If you need support, do not hesitate to reach out to mental health professionals, school counsellors, your teacher, coach, a parent or guardian.
Your safety --- both physically and psychologically --- is important and must be protected.
- How To Navigate This Course
- It's not your fault
- Not Your Fault Video Lesson
- Students Chp One
- Why is it so hard to speak out about sexual harassment or abuse?
- Sexual Harassment Video Lesson
- Students Chp Two
- Why is it so hard to speak out about adult bullying?
- Emotional Abuse Video Lesson
- Students Chp Three
- 3 Key Steps to Keeping a Record
- 3 Key Steps Video Lesson
- Students Chp Four
- 10 Leading Tactics Used by Those Bullying to control their Targets
- Leading Tactics used by Bullies
- Students Chp Five
- Replace opinions with research
- Replace Opinions with Research
- Students Chp Six
Dr. Jennifer Fraser is an award-winning educator and best-selling author on Amazon. Featured in the Huffington Post, National Workplace Bullying Coalition; Toronto Star, Changing The Game Project; National Alliance for Youth Sports; and Edutopia along with many other media outlets and foundations, Jennifer advocates for the rights of students and individuals to learn in an abuse-free environment.
Since the publication of her third book, Teaching Bullies: Zero Tolerance on the Court or in the Classroom, Jennifer has been writing articles, and giving interviews and presentations across North America on the subject of abuse and bullying's impact on brains.
With a PhD in Comparative Literature from the University of Toronto, Jennifer's development of the R8 System is in response to the devastation of bullying and abuse to organizations. She draws on psychology and neuroscience to stress how harmful and scarring bullying and abuse are to brains.
Jennifer works with the brilliant StopIt! reporting system which she believes is the best way to keep students, student athletes, and employees safe, as well as organizational leaders informed. She has a forthcoming book entitled The Bullied Brain: What Neuroscience Can Teach Us About Brain Scars and How To Heal Them.