Are you being bullied, harassed or abused by an adult?

If you are, it's serious and you need to get help and be protected.

Most adults have kids' best interests at heart, but it would be a lie to say all adults are trustworthy, safe, and want what's best for you.

I have been researching adults who bully and abuse for six years now and I've learned that despite our knowledge and good intentions, we continue to fail to stop the bullying and abuse of children.

This course also looks at sexual harassment and abuse by adults.

Bullying is called "psychological" abuse or sometimes emotional or verbal. It targets the child's sense of self on all levels. When an adult attacks boys with homophobic slurs, then it moves in the direction of sexual abuse because it is targeting the child's sense of sexuality or masculinity. It is messing with the child's sense of women and is linked to misogyny, the hatred of women.

Sexual harassment and abuse targets the child's sexuality. Adults who bully say it's actually motivation; adults who sexually harass say it's about affection. They show care, attention, give favours, gifts and opportunities.

They may even try to become connected to your parents. Adults who sexually groom, lure and ultimately abuse are patient and adept at fooling other adults.

This course is designed to empower you because you cannot always trust that the systems in place will keep you safe.

Know this: no matter how much adults try to dismiss or deny bullying conduct by calling it other things like "tough love" or "motivation" or trying to make you prepared for a harsh world, it's not backed by research. It's simply an outdated opinion.  

In fact, we still are in an outdated belief-system that adults who use bullying tactics get results. It's a deeply entrenched set of ideas so it can be a real battle to convince the adults in your world that you are suffering.  

It's outdated because psychological and neuroscientific studies show that adults who humiliate, shame, put down, target, deny opportunities, refuse to give proper feedback, ignore, berate, blame and so on, cause harm to children's developing brains. They do not make them any tougher; they hurt them.  

This course is a guide. It is meant to open up discussion and to encourage you to report to trusted adults in your world. If you need support, do not hesitate to reach out to mental health professionals, school counsellors, your teacher, coach, a parent or guardian. 

Your safety --- both physically and psychologically --- is important and must be protected.  


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    Chapter 1: When adults bully and abuse, it's not your fault

    • How To Navigate This Course

    • It's not your fault

    • Not Your Fault Video Lesson

    • Students Chp One

  • 2

    Chapter 2: Why is it so hard to speak up about sexual harassment or abuse?

    • Why is it so hard to speak out about sexual harassment or abuse?

    • Sexual Harassment Video Lesson

    • Students Chp Two

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    Chapter 3: Why is it so hard to speak up about adult bullying?

    • Why is it so hard to speak out about adult bullying?

    • Emotional Abuse Video Lesson

    • Students Chp Three

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    Chapter 4: Three Key Steps to Keeping a Record

    • 3 Key Steps to Keeping a Record

    • 3 Key Steps Video Lesson

    • Students Chp Four

  • 5

    Chapter 5: Techniques Used by Those who are Bullying

    • 10 Leading Tactics Used by Those Bullying to control their Targets

    • Leading Tactics used by Bullies

    • Students Chp Five

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    Chapter 6: Replace Opinions with Research

    • Replace opinions with research

    • Replace Opinions with Research

    • Students Chp Six

  • 7

    References and More Resources

    • References



Dr. Jennifer Fraser

Dr. Jennifer Fraser is an award-winning educator and best-selling author on Amazon. Featured in the Huffington Post, National Workplace Bullying Coalition; Toronto Star, Changing The Game Project; National Alliance for Youth Sports; and Edutopia along with many other media outlets and foundations, Jennifer advocates for the rights of students and individuals to learn in an abuse-free environment.

With a PhD in Comparative Literature from the University of Toronto, Jennifer's development of the R8 System is in response to the devastation of bullying and abuse to individuals and to organizations.